Always in a love crisis? Constantly dealing with the blues? Don’t fear, follow these rules for relationship bliss
So you were gazing into each other’s eyes over a bottle of wine last week, but what seemed like a bubbling-with-potential romance has already fizzled out. Wonder why? Well, it’s probably because you’re not supposed to be Siamese twins. Differences make dating much more exciting.
If like many girls you think you are a magnet for bad boys and you think you’ll redeem the bad boy, it’s time to wake up and smell the restraining order. A bad boy will always, always be one. Don't put a lot of energy into the idea of a fairytale romance or you're bound to be disappointed later.
There are maxims in the world of dating, but remember you are the best judge of your situation. Make these old Christian teachings your relationship regulations and you’ll have a smoother ride on the roller-coaster that is dating.
THE SIN ❥ PRIDE
You're the kind who gives people the Manhattan-once-over (top-to-bottom glare) and decides that you're way, way too good for them. Remember, the old cliché holds fast, pride comes before a fall, especially when it comes to dating.
❥ Absolution: Stop being over-critical. Always be a friend first so that you'll get to know the person inside-out, and you might be attracted to those very things that you may be critical about otherwise.
THE SIN ❥ SLOTH
You are a passive dater. You spend Saturday nights on the couch with a bag of butter popcorn for company. Well, your soulmate isn’t going to fall into your lap from the sky (even though a few Bollywood movies might lead you to think so!).
❥ Absolution: Be more outgoing. Go for a drink to a happening bar and smile at the hot guy sipping his scotch. Join some classes and who knows, you might be grooving with a very hot salsa partner soon!
THE SIN ❥ WRATH
Bury the hatchet of all your past relationships. There is a reason why he/she is an ex. And most importantly, don't make your bitter experiences a sorry standard for your future ones.
❥ Absolution: Get your ex off your radar, and don't hold onto any angry feelings. And don’t believe that crap you give yourself for wanting closure (angry voicemails to him about what an ass he was, isn’t going to help anyone). Don't be cynical about the person you're dating now. Instead, give the guy a chance.
THE SIN ❥ ENVY
You give the green-eyed beast a free reign in your relationship. Suddenly all his platonic girlfriends are more good looking, smarter and funnier than you are.
❥ Absolution: Try to be the package that you’d look for in a boyfriend, i.e. an agreeable combination of looks, wit and personality. And don’t fluff the package because of insecurity.
THE SIN ❥ LUST
Don’t play with flames. Sex-triggered hormones can lull you into a false sense of feeling like you’ve fallen in love. Being ‘friends with benefits’ kills the friend bit once the lust wears off.
❥ Absolution: Listen to the tiny person on your shoulder, i.e. your conscience. Sexual chemistry, when combined with a matching mental wavelength, is extremely potent, so don’t abuse it.
THE SIN ❥ GLUTTONY
Don’t be hungry for attention. The fastest way to lose a guy is to smother him with TMI (too much information).
❥ Absolution: When you croon ‘baby’, don’t take it literally. You’re a lover and not a parent. Stop sending obsessive texts, emails, snooping on Facebook or bombarding him/her with phone calls. Give each other healthy space and keep the mystery alive.
THE SIN ❥ GREED
You have to fall for a person’s personality and not the size of his bank account. He might be able to buy you fancy dinners but can he keep you entertained through them?
❥ Absolution: You want to love a person and not flaunt or objectify him/her. If you’re looking for possessions, in all likelihood it will boomerang into you being treated like one.
